If you make it plain you like people, it’s hard for them to resist liking you back. ~ Lois McMaster Bujold
Have you heard of mirror neurons? When we see someone smile, mirror neurons in our brains fire as if we were smiling, too. As a result, when we see someone smile, we often, inadvertently, smile back. Simply by being kind, with a look or smile, we can encourage that same level of kindness in others as a result of mirror neurons.
It doesn’t work all the time, but it can help.
Have you ever met someone you found annoying? Have you noticed that if the person is both mean and annoying, it’s easier to dislike the person than if the person is nice, but annoying? It’s those mirror neurons at work again. It’s harder to demonize someone who is nice, but annoying. You feel conflicted: because the person is nice, you want to like that person, but because the person is annoying, you just can’t get yourself to do so. You end up feeling a little guilty. You find yourself being nicer to the person than you want to be simply because the person is a nice person.
There are those who will resist your charms no matter how nice you are. However, the majority of people will meet your liking them with them liking you, so you might as well set to liking as many of them as possible.